Becoming a new mother can be both a beautiful and challenging experience. While the focus of attention during this period is often centered around the new baby, it is essential not to forget about the mother’s well-being. In the postpartum period, new mothers may feel isolated, overwhelmed and unsure of how to handle this new chapter of their life. However, as a loved one, you can offer support and care to help them navigate through this transition. Here are three tips from a licensed therapist on how you can support a newly postpartum mom.

1. Ask her how she is doing

During the postpartum period, it’s natural for a mother to feel like the world revolves around her newborn baby. However, taking some time to check in with her and asking her how she is doing can go a long way. Simply lending an ear and allowing her to share her feelings without judgement or suggestion can provide an outlet for her to feel heard.

2. Don’t ask how you can help, tell her what you are going to do to help

Often, new moms have a running internal to-do list but may be hesitant to ask for help or feel like they’re “burdening” anyone. Instead of asking what you can do to help, take the initiative in offering specific tasks. Something as simple as bringing her a favorite meal, unloading the dishwasher, or doing a load of laundry while you’re visiting can provide a huge sense of relief for a new mother.

3. Keep checking in, even when she isn’t responding

As the postpartum period can be a time of adjustment and exhaustion, it’s not unusual for new moms to feel overwhelmed and unresponsive. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t check in or reach out. A simple message, such as “I was thinking of you and wanted to tell you that you are an amazing mom. Hope all is well” can offer reassurance and support without imposing any pressure for a response. Continuing to touch base with her, even when she’s not responsive, can help make her feel supported and connected.

In conclusion, supporting a newly postpartum mom can play a critical role in helping her navigate the challenges of motherhood. Asking how she is doing, taking the initiative to assist with specific tasks, and continuously checking in can be invaluable in offering the support and care she needs during this time. As a loved one, offering support and care can make all the difference.